09 May 2012 12 Comments
Overcoming Obstacles: Midlife Insomnia
Sleeping has always been one of my favorite things to do. I would say it ranks right up there with shopping and some other fun activities. And like all of my favorite things to do I was very good at it. Once upon a time, I could easily sleep ten hours a night. That is until about the age of forty. That’s when my beloved sleep cycle started to change.
At first, I really didn’t mind getting a little less sleep. I was able to stay up pretty late and wake fairly early in the morning…without feeling like I needed to climb back under the covers. But as the years progressed my ability to sleep decreased, until it got to the point where I’m at now: insomnia.
I’m not only having a very hard time falling asleep most nights, but staying asleep as well. When I do finally fall asleep, I wake up frequently throughout the night. Sometimes I even have to get back up and stay up for a while before I can fall back to sleep. This is not only driving me crazy, but it is seriously NOT funny! Like I said, I love sleeping. So I decided to try to figure out what was going on.
It turns out that insomnia is a common symptom of menopause. One of the reasons for this is that the decline in hormones that our bodies are experiencing causes changes in our sleep cycles. Another reason is that hot flashes and night sweats not only throw off our comfort level in the middle of sleep but also create an adrenaline surge in our bodies, which wakes us up. That happened quite often to me before I started taking Remifemin Menopause Herbal Supplements for my hot flashes. Also many middle-aged women experience menopausal related depression, mood swings, and stress. All of which making a restful night difficult.
So what are we to do?
If you’re anything like me, you don’t believe in running to the Dr. for a little pill to make you sleep. Instead, I prefer using natural methods whenever possible. And luckily there are a ton of them to pick and choose from.
Probably the most important thing to do first is to limit or cut out caffeine, sugar, and alcohol in the evenings. For the most part, I gave up my nighttime coffee quite a while back. And when I do occasionally go out to Starbucks in the evening and have a cup of coffee, I definitely pay for it.
If just cutting those out doesn’t do the trick (which it didn’t for me) you can try taking natural herbs to help you fall and stay asleep. Herbs such as Valerian Root, Hops, Californian Poppy, St Johns Wart, or Chamomile can help you relax and start to feel sleepy. Personally, I decided that a nice cup of chamomile would be a great way to end the evening.
You can use relaxation technique like deep breathing, yoga, tai chi, meditation, prayer, progressive muscle relaxation, or visualization. I’ve decided I’m going to try some yoga in the evening. I have a great yoga video The All-Day Yoga Workout – A.M., Stress Relief, and P.M. Yoga for Beginners. I haven’t used it in quite a while and really want to get back into doing some yoga, and this video has a few different workouts to choose from, including one for nighttime relaxation. Plus it’s for beginners…like me.
Some other things you can do to help yourself get a better night’s sleep are to make sure you’re getting enough magnesium in your diet. You can try some aromatherapy (lavender is great for making a person sleepy). Make sure you’re getting enough sunlight during the day and that the room is nice and dark when you are ready for sleep. Playing soft music or white noise in the background works for some people. Exercising regularly during the day can be very helpful; though, exercising at night, besides yoga, can actually make it harder to fall asleep. And finally, some people find taking melatonin (a hormone that aids in regulating your internal clock) helps them.
So the next time you find yourself wide awake in the middle of the night, jump on the computer, pull up this article, and consider giving some of these ideas a try.
I’m just starting to make changes in my nighttime habits. I know…it took me long enough to finally get around to doing something about it. I’ve chosen a few of these ideas to try first and see how well they work. Hopefully SOON I’ll be able to get back to doing what I love: Sleeping!
Have you been having trouble sleeping since you hit midlife? What have you been doing to try to get a better night’s sleep?








May 09, 2012 @ 06:18:00
I totally understand this issue from personal experience. Menopause is a nasty bed fellow. I no longer have evening coffee. I wear ear plugs to drown out external noise. I try to read, or at least watch something mind numbing on TV right before bed to quiet my mind. If I need a snack before bed, I definitely stay away from anything with sugar in it. I have window dressings that are coated to block out light. There are times when nothing works, but at least those are becoming more rare now.
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May 09, 2012 @ 09:04:42
Those are more good ideas on how to settle down for a good night’s sleep, Cheryl. Thanks for the comment!
May 09, 2012 @ 09:31:10
How timely! I had insomnia last night, and it was almost solely the product of worrying and bad dreams, not environmental factors. In this case, my mind was my enemy. I don’t know the best way to deal with it, either, but I’ve heard that lying in bed awake is a bad idea, that reading or walking around is actually better and will get you snoozing sooner. So I guess once I hit middle age, I’m in big trouble!
Now, back to bed with me.
May 09, 2012 @ 09:34:53
I’m sorry to hear you had a rough night, Alexandra! I’ve also heard lying in bed when you can’t sleep is a bad idea. Maybe try some of the ideas in my post. They aren’t just for the middle aged ladies. Thanks for commenting!
May 09, 2012 @ 11:40:58
You’re right. I like the idea of doing yoga during the day. I used to do it every week, but I got distracted
May 09, 2012 @ 11:45:07
I agree, I like doing yoga as well. I just tend to get busy with my day and forget to do it.
May 10, 2012 @ 19:57:30
Just getting around to reading this now, Liz, and it was right on time for me, too, as I have had a bad week sleep-wise. I was going along pretty good there for a couple of months but this week has not been good. I do several of the things you mentioned above. I have totally blocked out ALL light in our room. I’ve got darkening shades on the windows and I even cover up my clock at night because it’s pretty bright. I have been taking a wonderful magnesium supplement I got from the Vitamin Shoppe and it (usually) helps me tremendously. I’ve discovered that I can no longer drink wine, any wine, after about 5 p.m. or so. If I do, I am awake at 2 a.m., on the dot. It’s really weird. Thanks to the big M, though, I have trouble with temperature regulation at night. Not really sure what to do about that. I love using a lavender hand lotion right after I get in bed. I sleep on my sides with my hands up near my face, so I can usually smell it all night. I found a very cool relaxation app for my phone that I’ve been using at night sometimes – one of those where you relax each part of the body at a time. It is awesome for someone like me who has difficulty EVER totally relaxing. I need to try that yoga DVD you mentioned. I love yoga and maybe it will help to try some in the evening.
Alexandra, you had the same problem I had last night. I woke up at 3 and my mind immediately went haywire with worry. Worry about anything and everything. I HATE when that happens. Several years ago it was really bad every single night and I ended up with a prescription drug to help me sleep. I got off of the drug after about a year. I often tell my husband that if I could just take my brain out of my head and set it on the nightstand during the night, I’d be able to sleep like a baby, LOL! Thankfully, those nights are few and far between these days.
I used to have to wear earplugs at night because I am a light sleeper and every little sound woke me up. Now my hearing has gotten to the point that when I take out my hearing aids I usually hear nothing, so at least I don’t have that problem. (I’ve been wearing hearing aids for years – I have otosclerosis in both ears.)
Oh, to be able to sleep like I did when I was a teenager.
May 10, 2012 @ 20:07:33
“Oh, to be able to sleep like I did when I was a teenager.” Right? Why is it we could sleep so much more when we were young and now…not so much.
I hope some of the ideas help you, Tabitha! Also, what is the app you have for your iPhone? I want to get that! And what magnesium supplements do you take? I haven’t found any yet.
Thanks for your comment, Tabitha! Hope you have a good night’s sleep tonight!
May 11, 2012 @ 05:36:28
Another well written article. I like how u did add Melatonin, it works better for me then sleeping pills & I’m finally getting some REM.
Do u write for any magazines?
May 11, 2012 @ 10:17:07
Thanks! Glad to hear Melatonin is working for you, Suzi. At the moment I’m only writing for my blog. Thanks for asking and for your comment!
Aug 24, 2012 @ 07:29:16
Hello
Thank you for a great post – well written useful information. For most people, stress and lifestyle are probably the most common causes of insomnia. Fortunately for all the insomniacs, nowadays there are natural cures for insomnia available – starting from herbal teas and ending with acupressure.
People should find the cause of their insomnia first and then start with the elimination – not the other way around as some people do.
Best Regards
Emma
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Aug 28, 2012 @ 16:38:28
Thanks for the comment and the very good pointers, Emma!